“Nothing about success is reserved for special people.”
Sit with that for a minute–especially if you’re reading this in January and you’re already feeling your motivation wobble.
We’re back to routine, guys. Back to routine.
This time of year splits people.
Some of you are gutted to be back at work thinking, how is it January already? You’re overwhelmed by the thought of goal setting and not in that space of motivation yet. You’re just trying to get through the week without feeling like you’re behind before you’ve even started.
Others (like me!) feel the opposite. Routine feels good. You’ve got energy again. You’re itching to get going.
And whichever camp you’re in, that same thought can still sit underneath everything:
Maybe it’s not possible for me.
New Year resolutions fade by about February. Limiting beliefs creep back in. Old habits creep back in. This is the reminder you want in your back pocket when that happens.
Success isn’t reserved for special people
Nothing about success is reserved for special people.
Hold onto that.
Most people don’t quit because they don’t want it. They quit when they start telling themselves it’s for someone else. So if you can hold onto this thought–properly hold onto it–you stop treating your goals like they’re for “other people,” and you start treating them like they’re yours to go and build.
For a long time, I put successful people on a pedestal. I assumed they had something I didn’t. A secret code. A better mindset. Better opportunities. Something that made it easier for them.
There was always a story behind why it worked for them… and why it wouldn’t work for me.
And I’ve stripped that away now. So much so, that I not only believe it’s possible for my clients and coaches, I believe it’s possible for ANYONE who is willing to do the work.
You can see when it starts to click. The way someone carries themselves changes. The goals get bigger. The negative self-talk softens. They start moving like the thing they want is actually within reach.
Dream bigger: the “10x it” question
One of my headline words this year is dream bigger.
Which is nuts, isn’t it? Why has that never been a key word for me?
If you’ve followed me for a while, you’ll know I’ve always found it hard to dream ten times bigger. I’ve always been able to stretch a little. One step higher feels reasonable. Ten times bigger felt out of reach.
So this year I’m doing an experiment. Every time I put something on my vision board or write a goal down, I’m going to do this:
- Think of the goal
- Ask: what would ten times bigger than this look like?
- Write THAT goal down
Because I’m curious what happens when I stop capping myself at what feels “reasonable.”
Use triggers as information
Sometimes the universe plants an idea in your head and you think, “Oh God, wouldn’t it be amazing if…”, or “wouldn’t it be amazing if I had x…”
I want you to hold onto that bit of magic longer this year. Don’t immediately dismiss it.
Or if you’re sat here wishing you had the life of someone else, and it feels triggering… use that as information.
Because if it’s possible for that one person, it’s 100% possible for you.
And the same goes if you’re going back to work and you hate it because it’s the same job, same company, same role, same hours, same paycheck. That’s information too.
Pay attention this week. What keeps getting under your skin? What do you keep brushing off, but it’s still there?
What keeps popping up that makes you think, this is the bit I need to change?
That’s usually where your attention needs to go.
If you want something simple, do this.
Grab your notes app and answer these quickly. No overthinking it.
- What’s draining me right now?
- What am I tolerating that I don’t actually want?
- What keeps annoying me in the same way, over and over?
- What do I keep daydreaming about, then dismissing?
- If I could change one thing in the next three months, what would it be?
Treat this as clue-collecting. You’re building a clearer picture of what wants to change.
Ten minutes a day builds trust
Sometimes you just need the right key. The key might be doing the work on yourself. The key might be committing to ten minutes a day. People underestimate how powerful ten minutes a day is.
It doesn’t sound like much, but it does something important: it builds trust. You start to believe yourself again, because you’re showing up.
Consistent movement builds momentum.
Take this belief into February and keep going
I’ve been thinking about this a lot because I’m really invested in reducing the time I spend on my phone. My phone tracks it, and I don’t even want to look properly, because it’s embarrassing. But say it’s four hours a day. I don’t even know if it is–that’s me guessing.
Still. Four hours a day is a lot. So the question is: where could even a small chunk of that time go instead?
Because there’s data in everything. That time is going somewhere, either way. So you get to decide what it’s feeding–more scrolling, or the thing you keep saying you want. Even if it’s ten minutes today.
So this is the thought that’s going to carry you through January, February, and into March. Still going when motivation wears off and the old thoughts start shouting again. And some thoughts will show up and try to pull you back into the old story.
Come back to what’s true:
If it’s possible for one person, it’s possible for you.
It’s just a case of figuring out how you’re going to achieve it. Whatever “it” is for you–having a baby, being in a relationship, having more money, completely changing your career. It’s possible.
If you’re keeping this belief close this year, stay with me. Listen to the Unbreakable Mindset podcast for the full conversation, and follow me on Instagram to keep your mindset topped up between episodes.`
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